Reflections on Gender Roles & Equality

Hey guys, long time no post.. ^^ So I was writing a short reflection for my psychology class just now on gender roles, and something just stirred up inside me ( I’ve grown up in a pretty traditional family.. =.= ) So here is just another babbling of mine.. :3 Just P.S., this is more focused on the role of women in society. I spent like 20-30 minutes (with YouTube music in the background) to write this up, so yea.. try not to harshly criticize any grammar mistakes.. ^^

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“A woman’s place is in the home.”

“Sugar and spice and everything nice—that’s what little girls are made of.”

“You’re a tomboy if you climb trees and play sports.”

“Someday you’ll meet Prince Charming (or Mr. Right).”

“Girls can’t do math.”

“That’s too big (or too dangerous) for you to handle.”

“You need to learn how to cook and clean so you can be a good wife.”

“Boys don’t like smart girls.”

“Girls grow up to be mommies, nurses, and teachers.”

“If you work too hard, you’ll end up as an old maid.”

“Women bosses are worse than men.”

“Nice girls know how to keep their mouths shut.”

“Girls are cry-babies.”

Out of the statements listed above, I remember hearing eight of them while growing up. Actually, I am not really surprised at this number because considering that I’ve grown up in an Asian culture with major division between male and female roles in society, even when my parents are not as traditional, there are still many stereotypes and limitations to how a girl should be raised and live their life. Growing up, I personally hated the way my parents made me stay home almost every weekend instead of hanging out with friends just because “girls shouldn’t go out too much”.

Most of the adults in my life supported women having their careers and job; however, they can be bias toward what kind of careers are suited for women. The media often show women with jobs that are more tender and feminine such as teacher, nurse, or simply a housewife. In pursuing my career, coming to study abroad for higher education was a major stepping stone. Even when my parents fully supported and pushed forward my decision, there were still a few “adults” in my life who were not too happy because “a young girl should not be too far away from home” or in one instance, I got that typical “if you study too much and get higher degrees, it will be hard to find a husband.”

If I could change some of the messages I received as a child, I would change the idea that a girl cannot hang out much outside the house just because that is not what a lady should do. There was no real legit reason behind it beside it makes the family looks bad, which also does not hold a legit reason. I would substitute it with girls can hang out and be outside their house as much as guys can as long as they stay responsible with their actions and would not do anything that bring down their personal dignity.

My career plan right now is finance in the business field, which I would say is traditionally considered as “masculine” because it involves with a lot of communications between different people. Traditionally, women are supposed to stay home and take care of their family; business is more for the men as they take care of the money and interactions with others. Careers should not be classified this way because there should be gender equality in what each person wants to do in picking their own career. Women can pick any careers they want to as long as they are willing to do it. It depends on each individual wants to do and their preferences, and not on what society tells them what they should be doing. There should not be discriminations in choosing careers just because they are not the “right” gender in doing it.

Out of all the listed statement, I think I would still tell my daughter that she will grow up to a mommy because it is just the way it is biologically unless she wants to grow up to not raise any kids, which would be her choice too. I would tell my son similarly in a sense that he will have to contribute to raising a kid when he has his own family.

My Love….

It’s been almost a year that I’ve came here, and I just realized that I have many things that I love. So, yeah.. One of those cheesy posts. =.=

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I love the fact that I can sleep long past morning and not get busted for it. I love the fact that I have classes later during the day. I love staring at the clock during the long, awkward English class without the professor noticing it. I love taking naps between classes. I love the fact that I came to college in the US and live in dorm.  I love living only 5 minutes walk from my classrooms. I love the fact that I can see my friends any time I want to. I love hanging out with my friends whenever I want. I love eating practically every meal with a bunch of friends. I love being one of the youngest among us. I love feeling like a younger sister. I love having friends who take care of me like their little sister. I love having friend who thinks of me as her younger sister even though I’m actually older. I love knowing that I can crash at a friend’s place when I feel sick. I love feeling like having a second family here. I love being independent most of the time. I love having a great campus job because I get easy money to spend.

I love sitting on the wide windowsill in this particular study room on the second floor of the library and do my work. I love watching outside that window over the campus’ soccer field and out toward the mountain valleys. I love staring at downtown’s tall buildings in the distant from that windowsill. I love walking around campus on breezy autumn evenings and having deep thoughts to myself with earphones in my ears. I love looking at leaves changing colors as the season changes. I love rollerblading in the car park when it is not cold outside. I love walking along the campus’ creek during autumn and spring; the sound of flowing water is calming yet exciting at the same time.

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When the Ice Clash Ch. 16

Disclaimer: I do not any characters in Fairy Tail. I just own the plot in this fanfic. ^o^

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Previously: 

Juvia paused her walk once again and just stayed in silence. “After all these year, I’m just a guildmate to you now?” Juvia just stood there with a pair of cold eyes looking straight ahead at nothing in particular. “I’m no one special to you now? Just a guildmate?” Juvia still didn’t response and just started walking away toward the door in silence, leaving the helpless mage behind in his despair.

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Gray’s P.O.V:

Is this how she felt before? Juvia, is this how you felt before? Cold, empty…lonely? I stood there petrified, looking toward the door. The door that Juvia walked out. The door that led her out of my life. What have I done? Is it really too late? Is the wound in her heart really too deep to heal? The thought of her wound made me flinched; her once gloomy self was long gone after she came into Fairy Tail. That gloom, that rain came back to haunt her once again, and I’ve caused it. Every time I found love, they always leave me behind. No, actually I chased them out. My family, Ur, and now Juvia. I defied Ur and killed her. I’ve hurt Juvia all along and eventually, it chased her out of my life. I’m sorry, Juvia. I didn’t want to turn your life back to the dark, and yet, I still did it, didn’t I? Gomene. I want you to be happy now, even if it means I will have to let you go.

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Baby, Don’t Lie

Helllooooo!! Long time, no post huh?? ^o^ Well, I got a bit busy and lazy.. :3 And good news, I’m visiting Cambodia for the summer.. Know what this means?? I might be able to bring back some new books with me! Well, maybe..

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When the Ice Clash Ch.15

Disclaimer: My name is not Hiro Mashima, therefore I do not own Fairy Tail. Though I wish I have the power to control the story, I only own this fanfiction.

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Previously: 

“No,” Juvia calmly told him while taking his arms away from her. “Gray-san doesn’t know himself. He’s lying to Juvia, lying to himself.” She turned around so that she could face Gray again, and place her right hand over where her heart is. “There’s a hole right here, and even Gray-san cannot fill that hole in her heart now.”

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            A few days passed by, but no new improvements between the two mages. Juvia, as indifferent as she could be, still did not believe a word Gray said. Every day, Gray would tell her that he loves her. Every day, Juvia would ignore that statement.  As the days dragged on with Gray’s constant confrontations, her emptiness grew more and more. It seemed like her despair slowly turned into anger and hatred. The more Gray bugs her, the angrier she becomes.

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Cascade (The River of Time Series)

This was a request from someone.. I’m surprised someone actually reads the English novels part of the blog, and I’m actually excited for this since this is one of favorite English series.

In the first book of the River of Time series, two bored American sisters stumble on a door to the past, where Gabi is rescued by a handsome knight who vows to love her forever. But there is a rival for his affections, and the girls flee into the present to escape.

Now lovestruck Gabi persuades Lia to help her return, even though she knows dangers abound in medieval Italy, including an entire city who seeks revenge. But Marcello awaits, and Gabi must decide if she’s willing to leave her family behind for love.

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Cascade